The Mystery of Romance

The Mystery of Romance

by Olga Hermans

 

Next week it’s Valentine’s Day; do you love the day that promotes love and romance? Do you? I love it! For some people it means cards and chocolate, a dinner and candlelight or a movie and all those wonderful things! I hope that today’s post will boost your romance for Valentine’s day.

There is one thing that many of us don’t know about God and that is that He is romantic. Did that shock you? He is not only spiritual and not only practical; He also is romantic. Where do you think romance came from? God is the author of it. God is the Original Romancer.

God is love! How do you get more love? You spend more time with God and He gives you more love for those around you. Simple isn’t it?

So what is love and romance? Is it a magic formula of bath bubbles and candlelight? Or is it a price threshold that we have to exceed? We all know it’s neither.

Romance is in the mind; it is a mindset. It actually is an atmosphere that we develop and grow in our relationships. Sometimes we confuse romance with the things we have seen in movies or read in books or what people say about it. It is important that we make a distinction between the instructions of romance and the descriptions of romance.

There are many many books with detailed instructions from experts on how relationships work. Instructions work great in assembling your Ikea table, but when it comes to romantic ideas, they tend to be generic, and they may not always “fit” your relationship.

You might prefer totally different things from what your partner likes to do. Maybe you prefer going to the movie and eat a burger or you prefer flannel pyjamas over Victoria Secret pyjamas. Your way of doing things doesn’t make you more or less romantic. No, it just means the classic romantic prescriptions aren’t your “cup of tea.”

If there is one thing, just one thing I could say to couples; newlyweds or marrieds for 40+ years, it doesn’t matter…I would say these four words: “Husbands, love your wives.” Eph. 5:25 There are also numerous verses for wives – for sure. They talk about how we should behave, respect, honor and submit and all the rest of it and we need to take heed to those passages, don’t get me wrong.

BUT…this is the mystery… don’t you love mysteries? It is a huge mystery to me but I know that it’is something divine and godly when a husband loves his wife – and gives himself to her. Nobody really understands it, that’s why it is a mystery, right? But it is very fundamental.

Jesus is like that; He loves us this way. I remember the time when the Holy Spirit wooed me to come to the Lord; it was a wonderful  moment that I will NEVER forget. We love Jesus because He first loved us; and it’s the same way in marriage. We didn’t initiate our love affair with the Lord…He did!

It’s the same in a marriage, when a husband loves his wife first or “initiates” love towards her—consistently—she begins to believe she is loved and she “responds” by returning love! Jesus was the love initiator and we are love responders. Husbands are to be love initiators and wives will be love responders.

Does your marriage need a romance boost? This is it: “husbands…love your wives! Wives…respond to his love”.

I want to give you some romantic ideas to boost your romance that you can apply to your unique marriage relationship.

  1. Romance should be fun, it shouldn’t be stiff and feel uncomfortable. Laugh a little bit and act squirrelly if you like. What’s your cup of tea? My husband and I like to go for some good food; what do you like? Maybe it’s nature, a romantic movie or music or do you like to go shopping together? I like to go to bookstores, my husband likes to go to these fancy kitchen gadgets stores; he likes any gadget, if you ask me…:)
  2. Romance should come from the heart.  “Long walks on the beach” is a common romantic thought but if that bores you, go roller-skating or go for a swim in the lake; do whatever you enjoy and makes you happy.
  3. Romance should not be an obligation; it needs to be a choice. The moment that you think, “I have to do this because it is Valentine’s day”, you’ve lost the romance. Deciding to please your husband or wife in whatever way is romantic.
  4. Don’t underestimate sacred romance; a small romantic touch can go a long way. Romance does not have to be big and expensive. All the little things add up and make great memories.
  5. Romance should be safe; you are ONE. It shouldn’t be boring, but it should be creative and spontaneous. But then again we should not embarrass, gross out, or frighten our spouse.
  6. Romance is something that you give; NEVER use it to manipulate the other. “I did this for you, so you do this for me,” kind of thing. We want to do this to bless our partners.
  7. Wear a scent. Whether it’s an oil or perfume on your body, a pleasant smell attracts. Sensation from Young Living Oils is a wonderfully fragrant, powerfully romantic. 

Is there a tip that you like to share with our readers? Let us know in the comment section!

You can subscribe to The Daily Choice which brings an encouraging message 5 days a week to your inbox by clicking here

You Have What It Takes

 

 

 

You Have What It Takes

by Olga Hermans

Sometimes God leads us the hard way instead of the easy way because He is doing a special work in us. How would we ever learn to learn from Him if everything in our lives is easy enough for us to handle ourselves?

That’s why it so important not to lose heart and not to grow weary or faint. You can be sure that wherever God leads you, He is able to keep you. He never will allow more to come on you than you can bear.

God is interested in us yielding to His grace to do the extraordinary. We are nothing without Him, but with Him we can do things that we cannot even imagine. Look at Moses who was called to lead the Israelites out of Egypt.

He could not see himself doing what God had called him to do; he thought he couldn’t speak well enough, he thought that he wasn’t strong enough. But something happened to him when he started thinking about the dream that God had given him; God supernaturally gave him the qualities he needed to fulfill this vision. The moment he started to realize that, he started to hold on to this dream with a tight grip and pursued it by force.

There are 7 qualities that you need, to discover the life you were born to live; we too have to take our land by force with a determination s never before. This is you’re your year that you have to know that you have what it takes to rise up and shine!

1. You have to know WHO YOU ARE; you are unique and you are valuable!

God’s plans for us contain a lot of surprises. God tells Moses in Exodus 3:10 that it was time for him to go back. God was sending him to Pharaoh to bring the People of Israel out of Egypt. He had to go and confront Pharaoh, but he didn’t know who he was.

We need to know who we are, what we can do, what we cannot do. God strengthens us in our weaknesses. As long as He is with us, we can do whatever we need to do. Be more concerned about who God is than you are about who you are.

2. You have AUTHORITY.

God explained to Moses that he would go in His name. He told him to say to Pharaoh that “I AM” had set him and that would be enough. God was saying that he didn’t have to worry about Pharaoh or anybody else. “I AM”  is able to take care of everything you encounter. Whatever you need “I AM“, so relax!!

The moment you know what you need to do, you will have authority. You have authority to walk in that vision and you have the authority to believe for it to come to pass. Some people may question your authority to do this, but your authority is in the “I AM”!

3. You need INTEGRITY!

When you know your assignment in life, you will have a desire for integrity in every situation because that is what gives the credibility for what you are doing. It established you in your vision. It really doesn’t matter what people say; it matters what God says about you.

You know that He is always backing you up when you do things His way; you have credibility with God!

4. You have to know that you are ABLE

The moment that you discover your assignment in life, you will find yourself capable of doing so much more than you were used to. Moses kept saying, that he was capable and this and that. Exodus 4:10, He wanted God to choose someone else!
But God highlighted his ability; his God-given ability, that divine ability to get the job done.

5. You need COURAGE

God ignored everything that Moses came up with about his “inability” to perform, to speak, and his age, and gave him courage.

Vision establishes courage. We have been reading in Exodus of all the obstacles Moses faced when God called him to fulfill this vision, but God ignored all that and gave him courage.

When you know your assignment, you also will have the courage to do exactly that what God told you to do and the courage to go after what God says is yours!

6. BOLDNESS will show up

It is really funny when you see the change in Moses. He always talked about God’s people, but the moment he discovered his assignment, he started talking about “My people!” He started to be bold because he had the courage and he took ownership (authority) of his own vision. That is what vision does.

He was changed, he didn’t say any longer “I am not…I can’t do…I can’t talk….”. No, he is bold now, because he is established in God. He knows now that God would back him up in everything that he was about to endeavour.

7. You need PERSEVERANCE

We all know the story in Exodus that Pharaoh didn’t want to let the people go, but he insisted and kept going back to him, but Pharaoh would not. He continually went back again and again. This was a different Moses. When you discover your assignment, you need perseverance, a “do not quit” attitude.

In the end Moses won; He knew what he needed to do, he knew the assignment that God gave him and by the perseverance that was established in his life he was able to conquer his weaknesses and finish his race.

We all have a purpose or a calling in life that God expects us to fulfill; we all need to discover the life we were born to live but we must have patience and perseverance in order to carry it out.

You have everything you need to be victorious just like Moses. Don’t settle for a life with no goals, no vision, and no purpose. You know that God has called you for a reason, so go for it! Don’t let Satan or anyone else talk you out of it!

Let me ask you a question; I would love for you to answer it in the comment section!

Q. If you are uncomfortably shy, how can you allow God to help you overcome this? Has shyness ever held you back from saying something God wanted you to say?

You can subscribe to The Daily Choice which brings an encouraging message 5 days a week to your inbox by clicking here

 

5 Keys to Master The Fear of Failure

 

 

 5 Keys to Master The Fear of Failure

 by Olga Hermans

 

 

Have you ever been in a situation that just seemed totally impossible to you? I have and I like to believe that you have to, because life happens to all of us. Sometimes, because we make the wrong choices for one reason or another, we can feel helpless and feel that we are not equipped for the situation, but God would NEVER allow something to happen to us and not give us a way out. In 2 Kings 7 God gave a way out to the lepers.

It is a story that speaks of a time when the people of God had been completely surrounded by enemy forces to the point that had completely cut off their supply lines. There was no food. Everybody was starving. Then there was a prophet who said more or less that God was going to turn things around.

That was difficult for everybody to believe because the situation was so devastating. The enemy was either going to starve them to death or they would invade and kill them all. So it looked as though it was a hopeless situation. But the prophet said that things were going to change and that God was going to turn everything around.

Outside the camp were four lepers. These lepers were in a more critical situation than the people inside the camp. They had three things against them:

  1. There was nothing to eat so they could die of starvation.
  2. The enemy was coming so they could die by the sword.
  3. Leprosy could kill them; they had nothing going for them.

It looked like the only thing they could do was just sit there until they died. That is what a lot of Christians do. Rather than conquer their fear; they just sit there and let the devil take over and rob them of what rightfully belongs to them.

Finally one of the lepers says in 2Kings 7:3 … “Why should we sit here waiting to die?” Those lepers would not accept defeat even though they didn’t have anything going for them. At least the people in the camp had all their flesh intact. They were starving and the enemy was about to invade, but they were not nearly as bad off as those lepers.

Let’s see though who got the job done. It was the four helpless, hopeless, impossible-looking lepers, who decided they were not going to let fear control their lives anymore. They got up and started moving towards the enemy’s camp. When they did, God got right in the middle of what they were doing, amplified their footsteps, and made it sound like an entire army coming over the hill and it frightened the enemy to the point that they ran away and left all the food, all the gold, and all the silver.

Four lepers came over the hill and there was not a soul to fight! They marched into the enemy’s camp and took back everything that was stolen. God is looking for some courageous people like these four lepers today. God is looking for some people who will master their fears.

Courage comes every time you look fear right in the face and decide you are going forward. You will never find a person who has great faith and great fear at the same time. One works against the other. When faith comes, fear goes out; but if you are not in the Word of God, then fear comes and faith goes. You are attracting one or the other into your life every day based upon what you listen to and what you see.

If you fail to conquer the fears that you have allowed to come into your life, then you are never going to be free to be yourself and do what God put you on this earth to do.

Here are 5 keys that you can do to master the fear of failure:

1.   Perceive yourself the way God sees you.

This means that you need to see yourself that way; meditate on who God says you are. Start talking about yourself the way God sees you. God is looking at you through the blood of Jesus. He sees you as more than a conqueror.

The more you spend time in the Word of God and read with your own eyes how God sees you, the quicker you will become the person that God sees in you.

2.   Become passionate and enthusiastic about what God says you can do.

When you are enthusiastic, that means that you can see God in every situation. Others may not be able to see what you see, but you see victory and success coming your way. You can see God at work on your behalf and that creates enthusiasm.

This will deepen your faith. Nothing great is ever achieved without them. You must be enthusiastic about whatever you do.

3.   Constantly affirm to yourself who you are, what you are and what you can do in Christ Jesus.

This is very basic, indeed and maybe you have heard this a 10,000 times but you are not going to be free to be you nor will you be the success that you are destined to be until you act on them every day of your life.

You see, affirmations are strong statements regarding what you believe. Affirming who you are and what you can do changes what is on the outside to what you see on the inside.

4.  Read the Word of God daily.

Feed your spirit daily on God’s Word and faith-building material. The more you read, the more you listen, and the more you watch faith-building programs, the less you will have to deal with fear because faith will come and fear will go. Be very selective about what you read, what you watch, and what you listen to.

5.  Surround yourself with winners.

Associate with people who have conquered fear. Associate with winners. Stay away from people who constantly talk fear and stay away from people who constantly talk failure. Who you associate with has a lot of influence on your outcome.

Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces. Proverbs 13:20  Msg.

 

You can subscribe to The Daily Choice which brings an encouraging message 5 days a week to your inbox by clicking here

 

Become A Trophy for God

Become A Trophy for God

by Olga Hermans

By now everybody knows Tim Tebow who made a mark in college football as a University of Florida Gator with his strong arm and with his determined play with the Denver Broncos. He is also known for his unwavering and bold Christian faith.

Tim is the son of parents that are missionaries to the Philippines and has become a very influential athlete in professional sports. I heard an interview with Tim, where he said how proud he is of his mother, who made a strong decision in her early pregnancy with him NOT to abort him. Her life was threatened with what the doctors thought was a tumor, which they later found out was just a tiny piece of placenta. Tim gives God all the glory for it.

Tim emphasized that it wasn’t really a choice for his mother. She never would have chosen to not give him a chance; she had the same determination about her pregnancy and that she would trust God as he said he has.

Tim accepted Christ when he was 7 years old. He grew up and became extremely competitive. He played baseball, basketball, and football, but most of all football. There was a desire in him to be a hero for Jesus and that led him to the University of Florida, where football became his platform.

I think Tim is such a great example to all of us in the way he looks at things. People look up to football players. As a football player, you have been given a platform, which is far more important than any touchdown or trophy or anything you could win with football. It is taking that platform and being able to influence people. Tim’s dad taught Tim that with this position he could go into any school and share any message he wants around the country, around the world.

Many people know him for all the trophies he won, and others know him for the verse that he uses in everything that he does and that is John 3:16

He did one little thing; Tim had this scripture painted just below his eyes and because him doing that, the secular media displayed this throughout the earth, which made people look it up online; what a testimony. There were 19 million people who googled this scripture. Tim did something unusual and brought something unusual about!

There was one Sunday that the NFL wouldn’t allow him to paint the scripture under his eyes, but he said that John 3:16 was his most favorite Bible verse. Tim threw exactly 316 yards and an average of 31.6 yards. The odd of this happening is just unbelievable; it would never happen if you would plan to do it. The world calls him a huge phenomenon.

They call him a miracle by the numbers. Tim had nearly 9500 tweets a second; that is more than after the death of Bin Laden or the death of Steve Jobs and even more than during the royal wedding, but Tim never took the credit; he always gives the credit to Jesus. What a great success story!

So, what can we learn from Tim’s example? I truly believe that everybody has potential for greatness, but just having potential is not enough unless you are willing to take a risk, step out, and let God go to work in your life. We have potential because God places gifts and talents in us, but they must be developed.

Many people today are wasting their potential because they are not developing what God has placed in them. Instead of developing what they have, they worry about what they don’t have, and their potential just goes down the tubes.

The reason for this might be that you think that others may not see you as having much worth, but the truth is that God sees you as priceless! You are valuable to God! And you are valuable here on this earth to someone out there who knows how to look deeply and envision the contributions you could make. Everyone has a gift and it’s a matter of matching your gift to the right people who can appreciate you for who you are and what you have to offer to the world.

Tim Tebow had to make a choice to discipline the gift that was on the inside of him. I believe you are reading this article because God wants to do more with your life than you have ever imagined. You too have a tremendous capacity and potential that needs to be developed. You have to know that we are never fulfilled until we become all we can be.

Each of us has a destiny, and unless we are pressing toward fulfilling it, we will be frustrated in life. Moving up to the next level requires a decision to press in, to let go of what lies behind and refuse to be mediocre. Those are attributes that we can see clearly in the life of Tim Tebow. He surely is not a mediocre person.

The fingerprints of God are all over you. God knew you before you were born. He has planned out all your days for good. Don’t let potential lie dormant. Tap into that buried treasure. Share your gifts with the world. You have more in you than you realize.

There is talent you haven’t yet discovered. You may have had some great victories in your past, but that is nothing compared to what God has in your future. You know you are not average, you are not ordinary.

Even right now I am declaring that the treasure buried in you will come out. I am calling forth the dreams, the gifts, the talents, the businesses, the ideas, the inventions, the books, the songs, the movies. I am calling forth your untapped potential.

I pray that you will be stepping into a new season. You will have to have confidence to do things you wouldn’t do before. You will feel a supernatural strength. Supernatural doors will open for you. Supernatural opportunities are coming your way. Don’t shrink back. Don’t be intimidated.

God is saying to you what He said to Joshua: “Be strong and of good courage, for the Lord your God is with you.” You may have been told a thousand times what you can’t do. But I am here to tell you what you can do.

You are valuable and you are God’s craftsmanship. When you get a revelation of your worth in God, it will transform your life. Most people lack a sense of worth or value in their life due to things that have happened to them in the past.

Many people have had to deal with feelings of inferiority because of the putdowns in their lives. But when they start to understand their value in God, you will start to value other people. You are a champion. You have been prepared for such a time as this.

Be a Tim Tebow in the area that you are good in. The world wants to know the God of Tim Tebow, just as they wanted to know the God of Daniel. Show them what God has shown you; be a light in the darkness of other people. Our God can show off and one of the things He shows off on is a platform of impossibility. Impossibilities don’t scare God – He works with impossibilities!

Somebody wants to hear what God has done for you; somebody needs to hear of what God can do. Your life is a personal trophy of the work of God.

Start seeing yourself as worthy to give your talents and creativity — whatever it is, God has the perfect plan for you and just like Tim Tebow, if you stay persistent in your dreams and prayers, then His favor will make a way for you to prosper. You are valuable!
Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Do not fear; you are more valuable than many sparrows. (Luke 12:7)

I like to end this post with a quote from Tim Tebow:

 “Well, when people meet me, I hope that they say this-this is a guy who, number one, loves the Lord, but he also loves people and he wants to make a difference in people’s lives. And he wants to help everyone he comes in contact with and he is genuine, he is real, and he cares about people. And it’s not about the scoring touchdowns, or being famous, or anything like that. But its about relationships, its about making a difference in people’s lives, and at the end of the day it’s about glorifying God.”